They look lovingly at each other across rooms, finish their partner's sentences, and playfully poke at one another. Here's how those blissfull twosomes keep the romance alive:
1) They celebrate a unique anniversary
Your wedding anniversary is a lovely date to remember, but it's not the only milestone that matters. It's even more intimate to celebrate less public moments of which only you two know.
2) They stash pleasure money
Every couple needs a "just for fun "account. Put money aside and spend it on whatever you want together!
3) They have a couple code
When you two can communicate volumes with a mere raised eyebrow or another form of expression, you feel closer to one another. You use these codes when you are in public in those "let's get out of here" moments.
4) When the going gets tough, they don't call Mom or Dad
When their is a crisis or even big news to share, the couple should talk about it first alone before talking to any extended family members. You wouldn't believe how many people are divorced because their marriage wasn't private and their partner did not feel first.
5) They don't nickel and dime about chores
It's no secret that most women continue to do more in the housekeeping and child rearing departments than their partners. Still, when couples become double-entry bookkeepers, adding up every dish washed and every diaper changed, they may be headed for big trouble. Most couples think they should have a 50/50 relationship, but the fact is they should each always give 100%. In good relationships, couples give everything they can.
6) They never lose their sense of humor
Humor is the krazy clue that keeps a couple together! When a couple can no longer laugh together it is a signal that the soul has gone out of their relationship and they are headed for trouble. Lighthearted couples never mock each other. They instinctively know what is and what isn't fair game.
7) They get busy, period
You don't have to do the deed every day or even every seven days fot that matter to have a great relationship. But there is no way around this fact: The happiest couples have sex on a regular basis. Avoiding a sex drought is crucial, because healthy sex reinforces and deepens closeness. That said, there is no need to stress if sometimes you let a week or two go by without sex. What's key is that you are both happy with your number.
8) They never withhold nooky as punishment
Expressing anger by never being in the mood will doom your sex life. It turns what should be a loving and giving act into a commodity. Once sex becomes the power struggle, so much resentment builds that soon neither partner wants sex. So, instead of feigning fatigue or rolling away from your guy next time your annoyed...speak up and clear the air.
9) They know how to get from poop to passion
One of the hardest things to do is to transition from say paying bills to being sexy with each other. Successful couples find remarkably unremarkable ways to snap each other out of the daily grind mode and stay sexy with each other. Show affection and kinds words to snap out of the daily grind!
10) They understand each other's needs
The main reason couples break up is not conflict, communication problems, or sexual incompatibility. It is the frustration--the day to day disappointment of the gap between what you expect and how your partner acts--that is the most damaging to a relationship and why people don't stay together.To diffuse that frustration, share your expectations with each other. And, be sure to check in with your partner once a year, as added pressures or life changes can create new expectations.
11) They do the ultimate move
Four words: eye contact during orgasm. It is such a vulnerable moment that sharing it adds a huge degree of intimacy to your relationship.
12) They use terms of endearment
Pet names signal a safe and supportive environment.
13) They are grateful for the ordinary
After you have been married for years, it is easy to take each other for granted. Please...DON'T ever do that! For a healthy and satisfying relationship, you need to have an awareness of and an appreciation for the negative and positive things about your partner. Through praising your partner, you give them the message that they are important to you. Plus, you will find positive thinking and comments is contagious. If you are postive, your partner will be in return.
14) They take 10 minutes
A weekly date night or lunch is always recommended as a way to reconnect, but sometimes all you need is a few minutes. It is the 10 minute rule. Take 10 minutes of your day each day to talk about anything--except for kids, chores, and responsibilities. Use this time to learn about your partner's world and anything more about them. Happy couples say they intimately understand their partners. And knowing your partner intimately isn't always about enaging in heavy conversations. Anything that helps you learn something new will bring you closer to each other. Learn, learn, learn!
15) They think positive
The best way to make your relationship better is to not be worried about and fixing what is wrong! The most effective way to boost fun and passion is to add positive elements to your marriage. That positive energy makes us feel good and motivates us to keep going in that direction. This doesn't mean you can't feel or talk about anything; but pretend you are weighing your intercations on a scale. If you want a happier relationship, the positive side needs to far outweigh the bad. The more you honor the love and joy in your bond, the sooner you'll transform your relationship into one that is truly great. Ask yourself, how much fun are you to live with and come home too?
FORMULA FOR SUCCESS IN A RELATIONSHIP:
The quality of a relationship is a function of which it meets the needs of the two people involved.
1) Learn what your partner's needs are.
2) Teach your partner what your needs are.
3) Meet each other's needs.
Now, you have two people working towards each other and their happiness.
