What really makes a marriage relationship last 30, 40, 50 plus years?

A happy and fulfilling marriage relationship takes a lot of hard work, but is it really that hard? Most of us just need a change of attitude and a better perspective on what it actually takes to have a rewarding relationship. The most important relationship many of us will ever have is the relationship between a husband and wife. So many of us want to have a good relationship with our husband or wife; but don’t know how, or want to give it the 100% commitment, dedication, and nurturing that it desperately needs every single day. There are relationship changing behaviors you can use in your relationship to make it last for an eternity. Without the nurturing and protection that a marriage needs; a marriage cannot be healthy, happy, rewarding, and fulfilling. Why settle for an avergage relationship, when you can have a rewarding relationship? The two are very different! 

·         Make sure your relationship is first.

·         Learn your spouse’s love language and speak it every day.

·         Learn your spouse’s needs and meet them every day.

·         Give and be selfless in your giving. Show altruism.

·         Give 100%, and not 50%.

·         Pray for your spouse.

·         Cherish them each day. Don’t take them for granted.

·         Do the small and big things every day to make your spouse feel loved and appreciated.

·         Respect and trust your spouse. Stay loyal, faithful, and committed to your spouse.

·         Spend quality time with each other.

·         Make lots of time for closeness, oneness, friendship, and intimacy.

·         Don’t ever neglect each other emotionally and physically.

·         Be the best of friends.

·         Be a strong team through the different seasons of life and your relationship.

·         Share similar interests.

·         Be a part of each other’s world.

·         Learn about each other and don’t stop.

·         Put your spouse’s needs above your own needs.

·         Be well aware of what ruins your spouse’s love for you.

·         Have open and healthy communication. Be safe to talk to.

·         Wake up each day and ask yourself “how can I make my spouse happy today?”

·         Don’t ever include anyone else in the privacy of your relationship.

·         Be creative, fun, and energetic.

·         Be happy and positive. Keep a good attitude. Stop the whining and negativity.

·         Know it’s not all about you. You didn’t marry yourself.

·         Don’t ever mention the D****** word.

·          Revisit your vows a couple times a year.

·         Stay in tune and check in with your relationship.

·         “Marry your spouse” every day.

·         Celebrate your beautiful relationship!

Understand a happy marriage needs these types of behaviors in order to be rewarding and fulfilling. Time together doesn’t mean complete happiness together.