Ladies...take charge of your marital happiness!

We cannot make our husbands change or act different by nagging or complaining. We cannot help them become happier by nagging or complaining. We can however take charge of the mood that pervades in our marriage and make a conscious effort to build both personal and marital happiness. As your home begins to fill with your positive energy, your own sense of happiness and fulfillment will infect your husband, making you both happier.

The real secret is to “focus on yourself”. The happiest married women are those who have learned the secret of how to “change their spouse”. You can achieve this by focusing on yourself and how you can change your own thoughts, beliefs, words, and behaviors. A wife can change a relationship for the better if she keeps her focus on improving herself—like being on a continual self-improvement program. Any positive change in behavior or response to one’s spouse automatically brings about a change in the dynamics of the relationship. It can help break a downward spiral to get couples back on track, or keep them moving forward toward a more connected and fulfilling relationship.

The happiness level in your home begins with you. You can keep the happiness level high by doing less worrying and complaining about your husband and instead put your energy into what is good for both you and your marriage. This can increase the level of marital bliss for both of you. Focus on the positive and you can see your husband appreciating the effort and beginning to meet more of your needs. Tell your husband what makes you happy and help him identify exactly what makes you happy. Keep in mind, it is important to have realistic expectations when it comes to what happiness really should be.  Remember to pick your battles…not everything is worth an argument.  Make marital happiness your top priority and let go of the negative stuff that clogs up your day and energy.