Ten – twenty minutes to talk together alone everyday. It is amazing how just making time to talk about things more important than who is going to pick up the milk will reconnect and rekindle your hearts. Many of the most happily married couples, those with a spark in their eyes even after 30, 40, 50 years together, have found the magic in the small things: a cup of coffee and conversation in the morning or a walk around the block in the evening. Talk to each other about your days, your jobs, your interests and hobbies, dreams, concerns, and fears. Share your world with each other and be a part of each other’s world in every way possible. Make time to connect with each other each day and get to know each other more and more. Wake up earlier or stay up later, do whatever you need to do to spend as much time as you can with each other. If you can spend an extra 2 minutes in the morning with your partner, then do it! When not together, send each other sweet notes and thoughts of one another.
Invest in a weekly date night (or date breakfast or lunch) together for at least 4 hours. Invest time to spend with each other and experience new things together that brings you closer to each other or do something together that your partner enjoys.
Make a monthly day away policy. At least once a month spend 6 - 10 uninterrupted hours together. This can be anything you both enjoy. Try a new sport or hobby to create some common bonds.
Escape! Try to get away from it all for a 24- 48 hours twice a year—or at minimum once a year for your anniversary!
It’s important to learn new tools and skills to have a rewarding relationship, so spend time together reading a relationship and marriage book together or do it alone and share what you learn with your partner. Use these learned skills and tools in your relationship and you can learn how important your relationship’s success and time with each other can become.
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