When you are married, all of your efforts should go towards taking care of each other’s needs.
During tough times, you may want to pull apart. This is the wrong thing to do. This is the time husband and wife should entwine arms and defend against the bad and ugly together. Most issues are temporary if you cling to each other rather than the alternative.
A good start to not taking a marital partner for granted is to think in we terms more often than me terms. It is good to have different hobbies and interests, but it is a bad mistake to selfishly guard your right to do and be what you want without respect for your duties as a spouse.
Gently nudging as opposed to screaming, ranting, and threatening, is what helps a spouse grow in the us/we department. Selfishness is generally a lifelong characteristic and requires gentle nudging before and enthusiastic kudos after to help someone grow into being joyous about giving without feeling as though they are giving up something more important than themselves.
The key to the frustration with one’s spouse is the difference between expectation and reality. When there is a basis of trust, honor, and devotion people can weather the storms together.
Teamwork and your union should be in your mind and heart.
The most important thing in a marriage is not ME but US. Give more than you can get.
Your spouse is NOT your enemy.
When life turns you a curveball, you don’t turn on each other; you are a team facing challenges together.
(Dr. Laura Schlessinger, The proper care and feeding of husbands)
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