Appreciation, Acceptance, Affirmation

Make him #1

When you put everything else in front of your husband, there is nothing left over for him.

Don’t take your husband for granted. He wants to feel special, noticed, encouraged and appreciated.

What men fear the most in a woman is the changes that women go through from being a girlfriend to wife to mother because with each phase many women care less and less about their man. Always put your husband first, even with children.

Reinforce your marriage as your first priority. Respect that your husband’s needs are relevant; no matter how you feel. Take care of your man and you will get it back tenfold.  You get by giving, not by hoarding. Too often, women look at their husband’s needs as a curse and burden, instead of a blessing and oasis from which to derive sustenance.  

A man’s highest expectation from his wife is to be a friend and lover to him first and then be a mother second. Be loyal to him and marriage before family. Admire and appreciate him. Support him and be his cheerleader always. Make intimacy a priority.

Accept your husband for who he is

Acceptance means accepting your husband for who he truly is and nothing more.

See your husband with fresh eyes and unlimited possibilities.

Sometimes, you simply have to accept certain things and love him accordingly. If he is not something that you want, then you need to love him for who he is and accept him in your mind and heart.

Appreciate your husband

If you appreciate a man for who he really is, that will make him want to be more of that for you. Men yearn for respect, acceptance, approval, and appreciation. When they get all of this, they will do just about anything to please their wives.

There is an incredible power when you make your spouse feel cared about, special, important, valued, admired, loved, and appreciated as a real woman or man. Without that important sense of being adored, there will be no compromise.

Be excited to see your man and appreciate his company!

He needs affirmation

When you consistently, persistently, and creatively affirm your husband, you remove one of the most compelling reasons for him to get over involved at work or to find an escapist hobby that robs his passion for home. Be supportive and don’t complain about his job/job hours/salary and other factors. Appreciate, accept, and affirm.


(Dr. Laura Schlessinger, The proper care and feeding of husbands)