Why do people fall out of love and what to do about it?

Love is like a plant, it constantly needs to be watered in order for it to grow, and we tend to take our relationships for granted and not give it the extra care it needs. We get so involved in the business of life, our work, bringing up the kids, and the tasks of daily living, that we don’t allow the time for maintaining closeness. Unfortunately what happens is that people do have a tendency to grow apart over time. When we don’t pay attention to our relationship what happens is that our partner can fall out of love.

Barriers to “Falling Back Into Love”.

If your partner is unwilling or unable to work at getting back that loving feeling, it may be because they are too angry to consider opening themselves up to you again. Your partner is afraid that if they let their guard down or worse yet, fall back in love, you will take them for granted again. Deep down your partner doesn’t believe that you can change. They believe that they are being paid attention to because you are scared that they will leave you.

So the question is: “Is it too late to do something about your partner falling out of love with you”?

What Can Be Done About Your Partner Falling Out of Love With You?

Getting your partner to fall back in love with you is much more than saying “I’m sorry, I understand, I’m going to be different”. It is more than buying a new house, or going on a romantic vacation, or having a child.

1) First Thing to Be Done: Gaining Insight.

You have to take a long hard look at why your partner has “fallen out of love” with you…and figure it out quick! Ask him or her and listen to every word they are saying.

2) Second Thing to Be Done: Showing your partner by actions that you “get it”.

The partner, who has lost the other’s love, has to demonstrate, not try to convince that partner that they “get it”. The partner who wants to win back their spouse has to continuously and patiently show by their behavior that they are making positive changes. You need to do to be able to get the best chance to get her/ him to want to take the step to work on getting closer to each other. You have to make it clear that the changes are real and not just for show.

3) Third Thing to Be Done: Getting Your Partner to Feel Like They are Really Heard.

The partner has to have a chance to vent and feel understood by you. You and your partner will learn how to: listen and talk to each other as well as constructive ways to deal with the anger that is felt.

Summary:

What is necessary for people to fall back in love with each other
is: understanding about past mistakes, changed behavior, and development of positive communication.