Think about it this way…If a husband’s most important emotional needs are sexual fulfillment, recreational companionship, domestic support, admiration, and an attractive wife and his wife does not meet all of these needs, how does she expect him to meet her needs for honesty & openness, conversation, affection, family commitment, and financial support? The answer is he can’t.
You can’t expect your partner to make you happy and meet your emotional and physical needs, if you are not meeting all of their needs. That would be selfish of you and it just doesn’t work that way. So, the bottom line is if you don’t feel loved, appreciated, or experience other similar feelings, then reevaluate your contribution to the relationship. What are you bringing to the relationship to make sure you are meeting all of your partner’s needs? The same partner that you chose to share your life with, take care of, cherish, and not take for granted.
Speaking your spouse’s love language works the same way. If you speak his or her love language for quality time, physical touch, acts of service, receiving gifts, and words of affirmation they will feel loved and appreciated. Only then will they be able to speak your love language in return. Give unconditionally and selflessly and you shall receive.
Remember to ask yourself every day…
What can I do to deposit into my partner’s love bank today?
What can I do to meet my partner’s needs today?
What can I do to speak my partner’s love language today?
Marriage is where you love and adore someone, you sacrifice for them, and you do everything you can to make them happy.
Marriage is an opportunity for character building. Letting go of one’s opinions, desires, for the good of the whole.
(Again, this only works for “emotionally healthy” partners)
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