A sobering truth: Every marriage will naturally move toward a state of isolation. Unless you lovingly, energetically nurture and maintain intimacy in your marriage, you will drift apart from your mate. The soul was not created to live solo. We yearn for intimacy, and marriage is where we hope we’ll find it. The tragedy is that few couples achieve it. Don’t be one of those couples, by first realizing both husband and wife need to take steps toward oneness as a couple by listening to each other, and making God the builder of their home.
Many couples will present a happy façade, keeping house and playing at marriage while real needs go unmet. While unmet needs indicate isolation’s presence in marriage, the irony is that slipping into a state of isolation seems to offer protection and self-preservation. Silence feels like a security blanket but is perilously deceptive.
Make the right choices, and you’ll know love, warmth, acceptance, and the freedom of true intimacy, and genuine oneness as husband and wife. Make the wrong choices, and you’ll know the quiet desperation of living together but never really touching each other deeply. The choice is yours.
The threat of isolation is sobering, but the promise of God to unite you in a lasting marriage of deepening intimacy is exciting. Celebrate your oneness. Spend special moments together telling each other of your love, and restoking your passion for the beautiful relationship he made by giving you each other.
The choice is yours…
Each day, each partner makes choices that result in oneness or in isolation. Remember these 3 important choices to make.
Choice # 1: Resolve to pursue oneness with each other, and repent of any isolation that already exists in your marriage. Remember, you don’t have to be married a long time to experience isolation.
Choice # 2: Resolve never to go to bed angry with each other. Find a way to resolve your differences, and move toward oneness. Realize that often it’s easier to hold a grudge than to forgive. Resentment and oneness cannot coexist.
Choice # 3: Resolve to take time to share intimately with each other. Allow your spouse into your life. Ask questions of your spouse, and listen patiently. Learn the art of healthy, transparent communication.
Learn about the time, care, and nurturing your marriage needs each and every day.
Learn about the time, care, and nurturing your marriage needs each and every day.
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